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Twitter asked me to “Share my story” & share I did. Of course, the story they wanted was why I use Twitter. Having recently answered how I use it on two different sites, the basis for my response was already written but I could have answered why with one word. I’d imagine most of the stories submitted will share that underlying reason yet with all the varied approaches found from blog to blog. Even those who seldom add to the ready flow of communication the internet makes possible are taking part in turning their share of monologues into dialogs.

The reason I blog is to communicate with a wide range of people & Twitter is by far the most natural extension of that. With the flexibility to follow only those of my choosing via Google Chat & an ongoing tweet stream awaiting me whenever I decide to take a dip, it fits my life & online habits even as they fluctuate from day to day. I’m always sure to find excellent advice, article/post recommendations, breaking news & — of course — a good balance of entertainment. Thus, my Twitter stream has replaced the “Digg’s Top Stories” feed I’d used for so long.

Through Twitter, I’ve had a blog post listed on ProBlogger, received a compliment from the founder of eBay & been provided an opportunity to communicate with people I’ve been following through other mediums for ages. Given who you choose to follow, it can be a mini-mentoring experience or simply an interesting influx of information (not to mention both ^_^). Like most Web 2.0 innovations, Twitter can be used in whatever way fits each user’s needs & the benefits are only starting to be realized.

|_|) “Communication–the human connection–is the key to personal and career success.” ~ Paul J. Meyer

PS: It doesn’t hurt that both my hunny & my cat are tweeting too. ~_^

While there are those blogging, & therefore being pseudo-social, with no other intention than making money; even they have to communicate something to have a lasting shot at profitability. There are also many entrepreneurs communicating so effectively that money proved the result. The difference between communicating to earn & earning from communicating is vast though. Gary Vaynerchuk puts it best with his encouragement to prioritize legacy over currency. It may seem ironic that I relate to that SO strongly since both appear equally lacking.

Without a clear path to either, goals still have to be made & intentions declared. My goal when it comes to blogging has always been communication which flows from the fact that I seek out opportunities to communicate in everything I do & everywhere I go. The result has been a full spectrum of observations; with all the extreme viewpoints, hard realities & reassuring wonder of the human condition as my guide. This acute awareness of all that we are, all we are capable of — good as well as  bad — & all we can be to each other is ultimately why I blog.

I’ve been expressing myself online hither & thither for nearly 15 years but not til six months ago was I able to start this blog &, not until this one, was I able to maintain one. Determination & circumstance finally somewhat in sync, an ongoing effort became possible which is why it was time to leave free forums behind. Having established that I’m here simply in the hope of creating a dialog & that I’m no expert in anything, merely an observer of everything, leaves the question; “Why am I willing to pay for a presence online amidst continued poverty?”

The potential answers — Is it ego, am I insane or desperate for friends?! — are why my Twitter story prompted me to tell my blog story. Although I impart much of myself in every post, I’ve yet to actually introduce myself. *flashback to 8th-grade cheerleading* “Dorian,” “Yeah,” “Introduce yourself,” “YEAH,” “Introduce Yourself,” “RIGHT ON, my name is DORIAN!” (flashback dedicated to Tony Northrip whose merciless teasing is why I still remember the degrading chant) As this is an introduction, before you draw any conclusions, allow me to point out cheerleading was the only way to be excused from P.E. :eek:


Biographically speaking, in six months I turn 40 & I’m proud of my upcoming milestone. Ever young at heart, I can thoroughly enjoy an age with which my life experience is not so incongruous. My life journey thus far has been one of heath problems, money issues & the mandatory family dysfunction. It has, however, been punctuated by irrefutable hope, miraculous comebacks & unconditional love. I met Rhodester 19 years ago & a relationship of some longevity is training ground enough but I’d already run a bit of a gamut before meeting him. He caught up with me during our first few years of marriage.

I had father issues & had been raped [more than once], fortunately unrelated, was an alcoholic with other addictions as well, very related, a runaway that couldn’t stay away, for love of my mum, & a Unitarian who’d come to believe the Trinity while still questioning Religion. “May you live in interesting times” proved both my curse & my wish; I felt trapped in small-town, middle-class mediocrity & found my escape to be ‘thinking interesting thoughts’ instead. My vices have finally mellowed, even I seem to have along the way, yet not only am I still addicted to interesting thoughts but thinking them isn’t enough; they must be shared.

That’s where you come in. I want to listen & consider, as much as offer contemplation. It’s with the understanding that we have an inevitable impact in every moment of every day that I want even the simplest ones to count. From the difference we can make with a smile to the apathy we contribute to with inaction, our ripples are being felt. In seeking to create good ripples, it just makes sense that it’s equally good — if not better — to impact other ripples along the way. Thus, I seem to inexplicably be offering advice & you don’t really know me; why should you care what I have to say & who do I think I am anyway??

That’s just it, I don’t think I’m any different from any of you. I believe that what affects one of us effects us all, whether we’re aware of it or not, & that we all share shortcomings alongside infinite potential. I hated that word growing up as much because I’d heard it too many times as it coming off oxymoronic. It’s typically used in reference to someone else’s expectation, at worst, or a specific goal, at marginal best, but would be far more encouraging were it to be left appropriately open-ended. Never should we limit ourselves, nor should we forget the potential of unending possibilities & unexpected blessings we all offer each other.

LOL cat found via a tweet from Pete Cashmore of Mashable
awww, its ok, u'll poop rainbows next time

While I feel I should promptly start pooping rainbows on that note, life experience & my personal dictate to doubt everything have always kept me a realist so my capacity for optimism is merely a balancing force. Part of my innate balance is an avid interest in almost everything which in no way qualifies me to have opinions about all of it but I do anyway. :razz: The next balancing force at work is that there’s little I haven’t come across thus I know there are no right or wrong answers. There is only truth & our individual experiences. So, I’m offering up my own varied thoughts in a way that hopefully makes sense & perhaps even helps, with the single goal of prompting more thought. Therefore, pour yourself another hot beverage & add to the brew..

“You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him
to find it in himself.”
~ Galileo Galilei ~

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1 RhodesTer 9 April 2008 at 1:03 pm

Aw, such a lovely post.. :-)

ShaDow thinks so too.. she read it from my lap.

I’m not sure which of us she goes online w/more, especially now that she’s tweeting (ironic for a cat, no?).

your lovely wife |_|) “Authors like cats because they are such quiet, lovable, wise creatures, and cats like authors for the same reasons.” ~ Robertson Davies


2 Rene 9 April 2008 at 1:40 pm

I really want to twitter, but it seems like just one more thing to maintain and use up my time. How much time do you devote to it?

BTW, I envy your ability to be so honest and upfront in your writing. You rock.

The beauty of Twitter is how customizable its use is. As with anything else, you can use it as little or much as you want but what you use it for & to what extent at any given moment is always adaptable. It can be an ongoing exchange between a group, a means of finding interesting links, a source of advice or networking, a simple stream of updates & every combination therein (just to start). I keep it running in the background all the time via Twhirl, visit the Twitter site once a day to catch up & have updates of my choosing e-mailed to me by FriendFeed. Not only is the type & amount of interaction up to you but completely changeable w/the pièce de résistance being the ability to change up — or down :roll: — on the fly. It’s by far the most bang for your buck, given the quality potential for any quantity of time spent.

I may rock but not w/out you. No amount of transparency matters if no-one’s looking..

Dorian aka coffeesister |_|) “Don’t speak unless you can improve on the silence.” ~ Spanish Proverb


3 Scott 10 April 2008 at 6:26 am

Well said. We’ve talked a lot about telling our stories, stories of the Kingdom, in our church. Those stories rarely have endings and when they do they aren’t always pretty and are never wrapped up in a nice bow, but they’re true and are thus more helpful than tidy platitudes. Your story, as painful as it was to experience, makes you who you are and you tell it well to good effect. God bless you.

Wherever or wherefore an honest story is told, the best part of us is shared. Life is a journey, one in which we’re hopefully heeding each other’s experiences & asking each other questions, so there are no endings; just more to discover.. Although my life has had hardships, I’ve never considered it hard & see it as an admittedly slowly but ever so steadily increasing series of blessings. I hope I am expressing life’s choices, discoveries & hope effectively. Thank you.

Dorian |_|) “I certainly don’t regret my experiences because without them, I couldn’t imagine who or where I would be today. Life is an amazing gift to those who have overcome great obstacles, and attitude is everything!” ~ Sasha Azevedo


4 Omyword! 13 April 2008 at 2:52 am

Thanks for sharing a bit of your history. I am inspired by your outlook, even tho I know it sags at times, just like mine does. Connecting to others enriches our lives, and reminds us of our own humanity.

I poop rainbows every day. I’m sure of it. Although, I haven’t been able to drag myself to taking a look. I just trust in the universe about such things. Although, marshmallows seem like they would be kind of fluffy and soft. hmmm.

I am baby stepping with twitter. Haven’t quite figured it out yet. Haven’t been brave enough to actually write to anybody.


5 coffeesister 15 April 2008 at 11:44 pm

Oddly, I don’t think of it sagging. The frustration & disappointment that surface along the way never seem to factor into the big picture, no doubt due to them being readily expressed thus soon done. A good rant definitely begets a more sustainable zen state & so balance is maintained. Without connection tho’, a rant would just be a monologue.. Thank you for being part of my checks & balances.

My new goal is to poop rainbow-colored marshmallows. At the very least, I’m going to start farting rainbows. Catching two birds w/one tho’t process, those goals are also a perfect tweet. You’re more ready for Twitter than you realize. :smile:

|_|) “My recipe for dealing with anger and frustration: set the kitchen timer for twenty minutes, cry, rant, and rave, and at the sound of the bell, simmer down and go about business as usual.” ~ Phyllis Diller


6 Cricket 23 April 2008 at 7:27 pm

Hi Coffee Sister! I love love love Twitter a lot a lot a lottle. What I love about it the most is the ability to tweet quick as a flash via my txt on my phone – no matter where I am or what I’m doing — the other day I saw a Pirate walking down the street and twittered it. If I hadn’t of twittered it, I’d probably have forgotten it. Twitter lets me make notes to myself in a strange kind of way. I love Twitter a lot…


7 coffeesister 29 April 2008 at 8:53 pm

Hi Cricket! I absolutely LOVE your love of Twitter. It’s those random found moments that add so much to our lives thus should definitely be shared; enter Twitter.. When used w/your kind of gusto, it enhances our info flow, our online community & our daily giggle quotient. Why in the world are people NOT using it? :wink:

|_|) “Each [tweet] represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until it arrives.” ~ Anäis Nin [edited by @coffeesister]


8 Karoli 29 April 2008 at 10:37 pm

I loved this post, for its transparency and its poetry. Thanks for sharing it. :)


9 coffeesister 1 May 2008 at 5:23 pm

Thank YOU for the feedback; I could just poop rainbows! If there are two things I wouldn’t want to write w/out, these are them.. Other mileage may vary but I don’t feel I’d have any business blogging w/out transparency. Wonderful blogging additives like Twitter would prove useless w/out it too.

|_|) “[Blogs] so transparent that through them the soul is seen.” ~ Theophile Gautier [also edited by coffeesister]


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