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		<title>By: Elizabeth</title>
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		<dc:creator>Elizabeth</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 19 Sep 2009 06:05:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dori,

Yoda you are to me. ;-) Oh wise one who does keep me sane. You make me listen continuously  to my soul. And most importantly NEVER TO GIVE UP. I am writing my story not journaling which in a way is a catharsis of sorts. I DO NOT KNOW WHAT I WOULD FRIGGING DO WITHOUT YOU!! YOU ARE MY MUCH NEEDED YANG TO MY YIN!!! With you I have forever taken the words Should Have Could Have Would Have Out of my vocabulary. The things that have gotten in  MY way are insignificant. Though they are blockages and challenges they are not as great as yours. But you are my driving force to overcome them. Thank God For YOU!  

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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dori,</p>
<p>Yoda you are to me. <img src='http://coffeesister.net/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';-)' class='wp-smiley' />  Oh wise one who does keep me sane. You make me listen continuously  to my soul. And most importantly NEVER TO GIVE UP. I am writing my story not journaling which in a way is a catharsis of sorts. I DO NOT KNOW WHAT I WOULD FRIGGING DO WITHOUT YOU!! YOU ARE MY MUCH NEEDED YANG TO MY YIN!!! With you I have forever taken the words Should Have Could Have Would Have Out of my vocabulary. The things that have gotten in  MY way are insignificant. Though they are blockages and challenges they are not as great as yours. But you are my driving force to overcome them. Thank God For YOU!  </p>
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		<title>By: Rene</title>
		<link>http://coffeesister.net/whats-getting-in-your-way/comment-page-1/#comment-1371</link>
		<dc:creator>Rene</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 16 Sep 2009 23:58:17 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>D, I was just thinking about you and wondering how life is going. I&#039;m so glad to see you here.

I agree that writing about your illness would be beneficial to you, and so many others out there who are in the same situation. Even the occasional blog post here would build a sense of community, and hopefully bring more awareness to invisible illnesses.

Do what you can, life&#039;s too short to should all over ourselves.
.-= Drink in this recent blog post from Rene:
&lt;a href=&quot;http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/LiveWorkDream/~3/lobWr3_m0Vo/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Three Big Paws Walk for the Cause this Saturday&lt;/a&gt; =-.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>D, I was just thinking about you and wondering how life is going. I&#8217;m so glad to see you here.</p>
<p>I agree that writing about your illness would be beneficial to you, and so many others out there who are in the same situation. Even the occasional blog post here would build a sense of community, and hopefully bring more awareness to invisible illnesses.</p>
<p>Do what you can, life&#8217;s too short to should all over ourselves.<br />
<span class="cluv"> Drink in this recent blog post from Rene:<br />
<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/LiveWorkDream/~3/lobWr3_m0Vo/" rel="nofollow">Three Big Paws Walk for the Cause this Saturday</a> <span class="heart_tip_box"><img class="heart_tip" alt="My ComLuv Profile" border="0" width="16" height="14" src="http://coffeesister.net/wp-content/plugins/commentluv/images/littleheart.gif"/></span></span></p>
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		<title>By: Benia</title>
		<link>http://coffeesister.net/whats-getting-in-your-way/comment-page-1/#comment-1368</link>
		<dc:creator>Benia</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 15 Sep 2009 21:39:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>There are so many things I want to comment about this huge post!  Let&#039;s see if I can remember them all...
* Regarding DOing:  Rather than putting things off, I do something that people have told me helps them.  I know it helps me.  I posted a little tip I call &lt;a href=&quot;http://xsarenkax.blogspot.com/2009/06/just-one-thing.html&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;&quot;Just One Thing&quot;&lt;/a&gt;.  The sense of accomplishment I get, even from doing one simple task (or even a portion of a task) is so much better than the dejected feeling I have when I keep seeing the reminder that I should get to whatever it is I&#039;m procrastinating (like dirty dishes, etc.).  I don&#039;t care if it&#039;s something hardly noticeable to others - I am the one who knows the difference I made by doing it.
* Regarding prioritizing: I heartily believe that there are some things in this life that are worth a possible flare-up.  I&#039;ve survived terrible ones in the past; I&#039;ll survive others in the future.  At least I can feel good about something I experienced while I&#039;m recovering.  ;)  I don&#039;t think it&#039;s healthy to be in &quot;survival&quot; mode all the time anyway.  Thrive at least a little of the time!
* Regarding not knowing you aren&#039;t &quot;normal&quot;: I have always said that whatever one experiences from childhood is what is normal to that person, even if others disagree or see a different perspective.  Kids don&#039;t know about the rest of the world; they only know about their own world.  It&#039;s only when we become adults that we start to compare with the population as a whole and look for reasons to feel subpar.  I know now that there is no real &quot;normal&quot;, and life is what I make of it.  I choose to enjoy the good stuff and know that my perspective is valuable, even if I have to weather some storms.  I also get to appreciate the good days a lot more than people who don&#039;t have the bad days I have.
* Regarding &quot;fear masquerading as doubt&quot;: I decided when I was a teenager that if I&#039;d caught myself shying away from any action and couldn&#039;t find a legitimate reason not to do it (other than being shy or embarrassed), the rule is that I have to do it.  I rely on the rule to push me to grow as a person.  I hate to regret NOT doing something because all I do is wonder what could be.  If I risk regretting my actions, at least it will be clear what I&#039;d done.  I learn from each experience.
* Regarding journaling:  I am hooked.  I loved it so much I bought journals for four other people as gifts.  They were all delighted.  There are no rules in the journal.  It&#039;s very freeing. 
* Thanks for posting your revelations for people like me to discover.
 :)
.-= Drink in this recent blog post from Benia:
&lt;a href=&quot;http://xsarenkax.blogspot.com/2009/09/split-personalities.html&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Split Personalities&lt;/a&gt; =-.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>There are so many things I want to comment about this huge post!  Let&#8217;s see if I can remember them all&#8230;<br />
* Regarding DOing:  Rather than putting things off, I do something that people have told me helps them.  I know it helps me.  I posted a little tip I call <a href="http://xsarenkax.blogspot.com/2009/06/just-one-thing.html" rel="nofollow">&#8220;Just One Thing&#8221;</a>.  The sense of accomplishment I get, even from doing one simple task (or even a portion of a task) is so much better than the dejected feeling I have when I keep seeing the reminder that I should get to whatever it is I&#8217;m procrastinating (like dirty dishes, etc.).  I don&#8217;t care if it&#8217;s something hardly noticeable to others &#8211; I am the one who knows the difference I made by doing it.<br />
* Regarding prioritizing: I heartily believe that there are some things in this life that are worth a possible flare-up.  I&#8217;ve survived terrible ones in the past; I&#8217;ll survive others in the future.  At least I can feel good about something I experienced while I&#8217;m recovering.  <img src='http://coffeesister.net/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';)' class='wp-smiley' />   I don&#8217;t think it&#8217;s healthy to be in &#8220;survival&#8221; mode all the time anyway.  Thrive at least a little of the time!<br />
* Regarding not knowing you aren&#8217;t &#8220;normal&#8221;: I have always said that whatever one experiences from childhood is what is normal to that person, even if others disagree or see a different perspective.  Kids don&#8217;t know about the rest of the world; they only know about their own world.  It&#8217;s only when we become adults that we start to compare with the population as a whole and look for reasons to feel subpar.  I know now that there is no real &#8220;normal&#8221;, and life is what I make of it.  I choose to enjoy the good stuff and know that my perspective is valuable, even if I have to weather some storms.  I also get to appreciate the good days a lot more than people who don&#8217;t have the bad days I have.<br />
* Regarding &#8220;fear masquerading as doubt&#8221;: I decided when I was a teenager that if I&#8217;d caught myself shying away from any action and couldn&#8217;t find a legitimate reason not to do it (other than being shy or embarrassed), the rule is that I have to do it.  I rely on the rule to push me to grow as a person.  I hate to regret NOT doing something because all I do is wonder what could be.  If I risk regretting my actions, at least it will be clear what I&#8217;d done.  I learn from each experience.<br />
* Regarding journaling:  I am hooked.  I loved it so much I bought journals for four other people as gifts.  They were all delighted.  There are no rules in the journal.  It&#8217;s very freeing.<br />
* Thanks for posting your revelations for people like me to discover.<br />
 <img src='http://coffeesister.net/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /><br />
<span class="cluv"> Drink in this recent blog post from Benia:<br />
<a href="http://xsarenkax.blogspot.com/2009/09/split-personalities.html" rel="nofollow">Split Personalities</a> <span class="heart_tip_box"><img class="heart_tip" alt="My ComLuv Profile" border="0" width="16" height="14" src="http://coffeesister.net/wp-content/plugins/commentluv/images/littleheart.gif"/></span></span></p>
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		<title>By: Alex Fayle &#124; Someday Syndrome</title>
		<link>http://coffeesister.net/whats-getting-in-your-way/comment-page-1/#comment-1367</link>
		<dc:creator>Alex Fayle &#124; Someday Syndrome</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 15 Sep 2009 16:23:43 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Yay to borrowing!

This summer I&#039;ve done a lot of work on getting out of my own way and I&#039;ve had quite a few breakthroughs which has the effect of making life a whole lot easier.
.-= Drink in this recent blog post from Alex Fayle &#124; Someday Syndrome: &lt;a href=&quot;http://somedaysyndrome.com/2009/09/email-based-coaching/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;No, I Won’t Talk to You: Why Someday Syndrome Offers Email-Based Coaching&lt;/a&gt; =-.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Yay to borrowing!</p>
<p>This summer I&#8217;ve done a lot of work on getting out of my own way and I&#8217;ve had quite a few breakthroughs which has the effect of making life a whole lot easier.<br />
<span class="cluv"> Drink in this recent blog post from Alex Fayle | Someday Syndrome: <a href="http://somedaysyndrome.com/2009/09/email-based-coaching/" rel="nofollow">No, I Won’t Talk to You: Why Someday Syndrome Offers Email-Based Coaching</a> <span class="heart_tip_box"><img class="heart_tip" alt="My ComLuv Profile" border="0" width="16" height="14" src="http://coffeesister.net/wp-content/plugins/commentluv/images/littleheart.gif"/></span></span></p>
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